Being a mother is one of the toughest jobs of the world. More so, because she is the first teacher of everything that little baby needs to learn to survive. Significantly, the first set of values the child begins to grow up by, are mainly instilled by the mother or mother figure, and as well as imbibed by the child from her actions.
So what would a mother, today in the 21st century, want her son to know? The mother is the first member of the opposite sex the boy interacts with. So the importance of the mother cannot be underestimated.
Our C3 collaborator Nikkhath Hussain has penned this beautiful and moving letter for her two year old son. The letter weaves in her dreams, thoughts and beliefs for her little boy who is growing up to be a man.
Read what every mother would want her son to know…
Fayad dearest,
Two years ago you made your entry into this world and crowned me ‘mother’, bringing a sea-change in my life. The sound of your first cry overwhelmed me, as I laid on the surgery table in total bliss, thanking the Almighty for this beautiful blessing. I will always recall this moment as the most emotional moment of my life. Holding you in my arms for the first time made me forget all my pain and filled me with contentment and joy. Today you are 2, and holding you in my arms is still as exciting and one of my favourite things to do.
You and I have come a long way, we’ve made it through all that initial struggle and it’s only the beginning of a very long, delightful journey. Every day with you is special, because you give me a different experience, something new to learn and understand each day.
You’ve just started to do your sweet little mischiefs, growing from a tiny toddler to a kid, and I already dream of you being a big man.
I have a lot of dreams about you Fayad. You’ve coloured my life nice and bright. You are the answer to a lot of my confusions. You mean the world to me, because I love the way you make me look at this world with your super-cute pointing gesture.
“I want to explore this world through your eyes, and be amused at your enthusiasm.”
But beyond all this love for you, I have a cloud of anxiousness inside me. Maybe this is the usual fog in the head of a young, first-time mother with heaping responsibilities. Extended nursing, sleepless nights and diaper changes galore! I think I’m endowed with a much deeper responsibility; to create a beautiful and nurtured human soul that I have to give to this world.
Maybe it’s too early to try to tell you what kind of a human being I want you to be, but one day when you are old enough, and you read this letter I had written for you, I’m sure it will all make sense.
I already have people telling me that I needn’t worry much, as I have a baby boy and that he’d be okay no matter what. Does that mean people would have looked at me differently if I had a baby girl? I also realized that parents of girls are anxious about their daughter’s future teenage days right after giving birth. That’s because culture wise or religion wise, the behaviour and character of a woman is given more importance in practice. Of course girls are precious and are considered to be the essence of the family. But does that permit me to put an unkempt and rash male soul into the society?
“I believe that a mother has to nurture her kids with good virtues and positive vibes irrespective of the gender as this constitutes the basic framework of their character as independent individuals”
I’m against the common mind-set that raises boys and girls differently. Boys shouldn’t be given any less attention. They should be taught that their behaviour and actions are equally important. Boys have to be shown love and care just like girls. So you needn’t be so uptight and wear the boys’ attitude.
You should be able to smile and loosen up, have a sense of humour, be brave enough to be accountable for your actions, be simple and humble, confront when things go wrong, see the bright side when life gets messy, be considerate of the feelings of fellow humans, look at the opposite sex with respect and zero negativity, cherish the family that you belong with and above all, value experiences more than materialistic pleasures. Never be judgmental of others and accept that life is beautiful, each and every day of it and that positivity is its sole key.
“Even if the world forgives a man for whatever he does, and accepts him for whatever he is, I want you to be cautious in your actions, to be good physically, mentally and spiritually.”
Each individual has something to offer to this world whose true potential can be achieved only with proper guidance and mentorship. Mothers play a key role in upbringing young men with good thoughts and clean hearts. And that’s the responsibility that I am happily bestowed with.
My baby, all I want for you is a life full of love, smiles, good health and plenty of laughs and positivity. The world is yours to conquer.
“But at the end of the day, I hope you give me the satisfaction of creating a beautiful soul”
Love forever,
Mama.
This letter is the most poignant tribute to the bond between a mother and her child. Our Uncommon writer has used the letter form to display her love through the most creative way- through word and art. Moreover, the values she desires in her little Fayad are the values that sustain humanity. We are sure that this mother’s journey will be a joyous one 🙂
About the writer:
Nikkhath Thouseef (Nikki), is an instrumentation engineer turned doodle-artist, from Muscat, Oman. She started doodling about 9 months ago, and in her own words says- When I felt blank and lost. Drawing brought me back to life. It helped me express myself, and made me feel liberated. It felt like I finally found my true passion. After doing a few doodles I thought of opening an art account on Instagram, to share my art. It was a great platform to find some art inspiration.
So ‘nikki_doodles_31‘, my Instagram art account happened, it was like a community of artists with the same kind of passion and thoughts. Now I’ve progressed so much that I think I’m ready to start my own blog, to share my art journey with the rest of the world. I’d like to teach young students who are interested, how to get started with doodle-art. My blog which I’m working on right now would provide tutorial videos and also downloadable colouring pages for colouring page enthusiasts.
You can follow her on the following social handles for enquiries, commission and art-support.
Instagram | Facebook page | Rebubble shop
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